Posted by Melissa Petrak at Sunday, 17 August 2014 1:18:28 PM EST
ARE THEY REALLY WELL OFF?
Tuesday’s Courier-Mail 13/08/14 featured an article, “Success is no block to abuse at home,” this highlights that DV touches even the most eminent of our society.
The Courier-Mail coupled this with an editorial entitled “Time to end scourge the of domestic violence” this report reveals “Last year 13,000 police and court orders against perpetrators were ignored.”
Some of these DV applicants were successful women, obviously the more successful and influential a husband, the easier he can find his wife. He may have a far swung network, of workers, colleagues and friends. It is almost impossible for any woman to escape, DV particularly when the children are in tow, they are instantly recognisable and easily spotted.
Remember to escape DV is to run, duck and hide. When a man has an endless amount of resources, he can spend whatever he wants to get his wife and children back, and control them again. Many strong successful women are prevented from escaping DV as the husbands have complete financial control.
Often finances are sewn up in property and the like, leaving a mother with no spare cash…therefore no possible escape.
Imagine the difficulties successful women face. Consider the quandary in their minds; are they to feel comfortable rocking up at the DV refuge, adorned in gold with immaculate nails, and hair?
Successful women may feel those less fortunate DV victims, need the DV services more than they, do.
It may not be possible for them to head on down to Centerlink to get an emergency payment, they could be embarrassed to do so, or ineligible to claim due to assets, they cannot even access.
They may fear losing community standing, so may not be able to turn to friends, who are in their social circle. They may wish to keep it discreet, to prevent any stigma from their family and friends. All of this would inhibit them taking children to DV or welfare.
When a mother appears successful, it may be construed as her not needing assistance- the mother may be judged on her well-groomed appearance.
In the words of Arendt-
It is true that all mental activities withdraw from the world of appearances, but this withdrawal is not toward an interior of either the self or the soul. Thought with its accompanying conceptual language, since it occurs in and is being spoken by a being at home in a world of appearances, stands in need of metaphors in order to bridge the gap between a world given to sense experience and a realm where no such immediate apprehension of evidence can ever exist.
Arendt, Hannah. The Life of the Mind (2 vols. Volume I: Thinking, Volume II: Willing).